Feb

6

How Sexual Liberation is Connected to LGBT Equality; Transgender Issues and the Census – #CC10

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I had an interview with the NGLTF’s Executive Director Rea Carey on my agenda this morning, but it was canceled because Rea wasn’t feeling well. I hope to get that interview rescheduled before I leave #CC10, but all was not lost.

I had an opportunity to speak with Dr. Jaime Grant, the NGLTF’s Director of the Policy Institute. Dr. Grant was able to answer a burning question for me: What’s with all the sexual liberation workshops at the Creating Change conference? We also spoke about transgender issues and the importance of the census.

http://sisterstalk.net/jaimegrant.mp3

More #CC10 updates to come. I’m tweetin’ #CC10, so follow me if you’re interested in all the great things going on at #CC10 in Dallas, TX.

Jan

23

Indie Musician Jasper James on SistersTalk Radio

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For the past five years,  Jasper James  has graced the stages of well-known music venues like CBGB’s and Crobar Miami. She’s participated in the prestigious CMJ Music Festival and she recently performed at New York based clubs Vandam and Touch Nightclub and UK based night clubs Heaven and Duckie.

Jasper’s most recent accomplishment:  Her song It’s On is featured in the 2011 Kia Sorento NBA sponsorship ad.

http://sisterstalk.net/JasperJamesInterview.mp3

Jasper joined us on SistersTalk Radio to discuss:

*How she defines her music

*Her musical influences

*Her childhood

*Her song It’s On being featured in the 2011 Kia Sorento NBA sponsorship ad

*Her career and how it’s been affected by her race and sexual orientation (if at all)

*Why she refuses binary gender definitions

Oct

23

Even Bitch Magazine Hates Hairy Chochas

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In keeping with the theme for SistersTalk Radio’s anniversary show Monday night, I’m looking for interesting sex articles to discuss. I found a couple of amusing articles (here and here). Some of you might find it odd that Bitch (a self-proclaimed feminist magazine rag) refused to run the following advertisement because (supposedly, since we don’t know for sure) it’s displaying a hairy bush:

Personally, for me, a hairy bush is a dealbreaker. But I don’t claim I’m a feminist magazine published to empower all women, so I can say that.

In my opinion, it’s not the hairy bush that bothers the folks over at Bitch. It’s the hairy bush peeking out of a pair of pink panties that bothers them. If that hairy bush was visible through the opening of a pair of plaid boxers, we wouldn’t be having this discussion. True hairy feminists don’t wear pink undies, correct?

Of course I’m joking.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. The Bitch rag can do whatever it wants and reserves the right to refuse any advertisement. But, does anyone else find it odd that a feminist magazine that’s struggling to pay its bills wouldn’t run an ad like this one? It seems pretty harmless to me, but then again, I’m not one of those kinds of feminists so I wouldn’t understand what “harmless” means to them.

And yep, I used the qualifier “those kinds” to describe those kinds of feminists. We’ll be discussing this more on SistersTalk Radio Monday night. Join us!

Update:
One of my Twitter followers said “Though, rather than the hair it may have been the male stereotype on the front of the panties that did it.”

Since we don’t know for sure, let’s assume (hypothetically, of course) that the reason Bitch refused to run the ad is because it supposedly objectifies women. Pfft! Call me an objectifier then because I love pretty pink vaginas – and a whole lot of sex positive lesbians would agree with me.

Oct

22

The ‘Yes, No, Maybe’ Sex List. Have You Seen It Yet?

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Andrea and I are preparing for SistersTalk Radio’s 1st anniversary episode.  We’re celebrating our first year the same way we started the show a year ago:  great conversations about lesbian sex.   Felice Newman, author of  The Whole Lesbian Sex Book was our very first guest and she’ll be joining us for the celebration on Monday, October 26 at 7pm CST.

We’d like your help to make Monday’s show a success – and a whole lot of fun!  Felice has published a YES, NO, MAYBE list full of all sorts of hot sexual activities.   We’d like for you to check out this list and tell us the top 10 things you would love to try with your partner and the top 10 things you wouldn’t dream of doing with anybody – not even that smokin’ hot coworker you fantasize about all the time.

Here’s My 10 Things That Would Make Me Say “Hell Yes, I’d Do That!” list:

body paint
breast whipping
fellatio with a strap-on
making porn
multiple orgasms
playing with sex toys
sixty-nine
strap-on sex
threesome
whipping

And here’s my 10 Things That Would Make Me Say  “Oh Hell No, Don’t Even Ask” list:

age play
anal penetration
anal play
double penetration
enemas
golden showers
knife play
licking feet
rape scenes
shaving (someone else, not yourself)

I just realized just how vanilla I really am.

Join the fun! Copy the entire list, highlight all your yes answers in green, no answers in red and maybe answers in yellow. Send us your completed list and we’ll compare everyone’s answers so we can see whose house we definitely want to stop at the next time we’re traveling. Just kidding! We won’t use your name on the show (we promise) and we won’t judge you (no matter how freaky you are!) so be honest.

Oct

1

Bi Girls Need to Practice Extra, Extra Safe Sex

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I just read No, Not All Bi Women Love Threesomes: Silly Myths About Women and Bisexuality. I’m guessing the writer isn’t bisexual, and if she is, she’s not as informed about bisexuality as she thinks she is. I’ve highlighted the parts that raised an eyebrow in bold – and added my own sidebar comments in italics:

As a bisexual in the dating world, you’ll need to be extra careful to practice safer sex. [hunny, everyone needs to be extra careful and practice safer sex]. Consider keeping a sex kit in your bag — there’s nothing hotter than a lady who knows how to take care of herself and her partner, and you’ll score points if you’re the thoughtful one who brings along a tasty vanilla-flavored dental dam. A pair of latex rubber gloves (available at any grocery store) will provide protection for vaginal or anal play — pair them with lube to make sure things go smoothly. Water-based lubes like Liquid Silk will provide natural-feeling wetness without damaging the latex — very important, especially for anal play. Condoms, of course, should also be in your kit: the Durex Pleasure Pack includes a variety of sensations to try. Finally, consider your container. Latex can be damaged by friction, so dropping a dental dam into your purse [lots of bisexual females don't even carry a purse. Ever seen a butch bisexual? I have!] or tucking a condom into your pocket can do more harm than good. A Just In Case hard-sided container will keep your latex pristine (and discreet — you don’t want a dental dam falling out of your purse [there's that purse again!] while you’re reaching for your wallet!). Finally, if you’re using a dildo, vibrator or other toys, be careful to clean them thoroughly, since bodily fluids can carry all sorts of unpleasant viruses. It’s always safest to keep your toys separate — one dildo per person, please.

After reading this article, I got the feeling the writer assumes all bisexual women are traditionally feminine women who carry purses. And that, my dear readers, isn’t always true.

Another thing naggin’ me: I’m wondering why the writer has emphasized that bisexuals need to be extra careful and practice safer sex. Is that based on the assumption that bi women are promiscuous whores who run around bangin’ anybody and everybody? Maybe I’m reading too much into this article, but I’m guessing I’m not the only one who noticed these little details.

Upon further reflection, it appears the article is more of a marketing piece for various bi-related web sites – and less of a sincere attempt to tackle stereotypes about bisexuals.

Thoughts?

Aug

26

Gay Dating Site Billboard Ad Too Much?

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A Twitter follower just pointed me to this billboard ad in Los Angeles:

Some of the comments posted about this picture are a bit juvenile and homophobic, like “Come to philly man..we dont play that homo shyt out here..100% real.. ” or “That kind of shit do not need to be on a big ass billboard.”

You have to hand it to ManHunt, that’s very bold. A blatantly homosexual ad hanging up in what appears to be a very busy area of town.

From the comments I’ve seen, I’m guessing most people would be okay with this ad if it celebrated straight male sexuality. For example, if that ad featured a straight couple with the slogan “Last night was hot,” none of those juvenile homophobes would have a problem with it. If that same billboard was a Viagra ad that featured a straight couple and used the slogan “Last night could have been hot,” none of those juvenile homophobe pricks would have a problem with the ad. I’m also willing to bet if that ad featured a lesbian couple using the same slogan “Last night was hot,” none of those juvenile jerks would have a problem with the ad; instead, they would be saying stupid shit like, “Why didn’t you call me so I could watch?”

Now, I’m sure some of the more conservative gays among us probably have a problem with the ad. They’re probably thinking, “That’s a bit too much” or “Why do gay people have to be so over-the-top with their sexuality?” And I’m sure there are both straight people and gay people who are bothered by sexually suggestive ads of any kind that are visible in places where children can see them.

What do you think? Is this billboard ad a bit too much?

Aug

18

New Anti-Gay Religious Organization Says Sexual Relationships Belong to Married Heterosexuals

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On GayWallet.com this afternoon, I saw an ad for The Lighthouse Covenant, the newest anti-gay religious organization (like we needed another one, right?). I thought it was strange that the ad was running on a gay web site, so I clicked it. Here’s what I found:

If you affirm the following, you are welcome to partner with us:

We covenant to teach a high view of Scripture. We trust the Bible as the only final authority for all aspects of life.

We affirm an aggressive, positive stance on kingdom expansion and congregational growth.

We choose to advance the use of all spiritual gifts through unleashing the priesthood of all believers.

We teach and practice that a full sexual relationship belongs exclusively within the biblical boundaries of a publicly committed marriage between one man and one woman.

We believe that mission and ministry is best accomplished within the context of congregations. Facilitating that mission and ministry should be the central focus of all expressions of the church.

I was so tempted to encourage GayWallet.com members to click on that ad just to blow the organization’s daily Adwords budget, but I opted to block the site instead. After blocking the site, I went back to see if they’re much of a threat. They’re not – at least not right now. It looks like a fairly new organization designed specifically to encourage its members to stand against gay rights issues. They made a rather lame (and confusing attempt) to justify point 4 in their mission statement:

Why do you make #4 a point? The rest sounds so missional. This sounds legalistic.

Answer: Every generation has its defining issue. In 1860, you had to say were you stand on slavery. Someday the sexuality issue will go away and there will be another defining issue. Clarity on the defining issue of the day frees a group up to do other things. Un-clarity leads to yet another round of discussion and lack of focus, therefore, on mission. It is ironic but true that clarity on divisive issues leads to less focus on them.

Anybody else confused with all that babble?

Perhaps The Lighthouse Convenant wants to take over as the new, younger generation of those old folks in the anti-gay religious organization AFA.

Jul

8

Queer Musician Erin McKeown on SistersTalk Radio

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Tonight on SistersTalk Radio, we interviewed lesbian queer musician Erin McKeown.

From elegant pop to balls-out rock, sweet electronics to witty swing, Erin McKeown has packed a ton of music into a substantial career. With 6 albums, 2 EPs, and numerous soundtracks and compilations to her credit, the 31-year-old songwriter, multi-instrumentalist, and producer hasn’t stopped for a breather in the last 10 years. Along the way she has averaged 200 shows a year and garnered the praise of fans and critics alike.

Hear Erin discuss:

*Her musical influences
*Her career – from Junior year of high school to today
*Her creative fundraising efforts (she’s raising money to release her 7th album)
*Her song “To the Stars” (featured on 5.10 of The L Word)
*Her true sexual identity (she identifies as queer, not lesbian)
*Upcoming projects and performances

You’ll also get to hear two of Erin’s songs: You, Sailor (from the album Lafayette) and Air (from the album We Will Become Like Birds).

Download the podcast now.

Visit Erin’s web site and listen to her music.

Mar

13

Friday Night Without the Mrs

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Holy dear gawd. I just sent this picture to the Mrs and told her “This is what’s keeping my attention – for now.”


image source

I’m about 4 days away from my Aunt Flo visiting and I have sex on the brain (actually, I’m thinking about sex, steak and chocolate).

I was a bit bothered by the borderline homophobic comments posted on the blog where I found this image:

Men and women are meant to come together to form the second complete unit – a duality or couple. In and of themselves men and women form their own individual dualities. But when two emerge, they form one entity, one unit – as well they keep the individual unit in tact. This new unit becomes the basic unit needed to produce or create children. The purpose of this unit, however, is not simply to create children, it is also to grow the original complete unit beyond itself

Umm, yeah. Annoying. But the picture is great!

Update: A Twitter response to this blog post has prompted the following question: Is this image art or porn? Or both?

Feb

24

Kama Sutra the Musical Brings Lesbian Sex to the Stage

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I’m not quite sure how I ended up on the mailing list for Kama Sutra the Musical: Vegas Bound … and Gagged, but it was one of the most interesting emails to land in my inbox in weeks.

Musical

We’re not dirty; we’re about sex.

Hear the new female-for-female anthem, When Pussies Collide and 12 more, like:

Martha Screw-it!
Baby, Won’t Ya Do Me Where the Sun Don’t Shine
Blame it on Cher

Created by Grammy-winner, Terry Abrahamson, the only person in history to have written for Oprah, Michael Jackson, Muddy Waters, Larry Flynt, Joan Jett and gay cable goddesses Sharon Gless and Pam Grier, as well as creating the first lesbian love song in film history.

I couldn’t resist checking out the web site. Some of the reviews will make ya raise an eyebrow:

“. . . it was great to finally see some real lesbian action on stage performed with real energy and passion that wasn’t about some male’s fantasy version of what lesbians should be. . . ”

“Aside from the fact that the parking sucks, the show got me and my date so horny that we did it in the car . . . ”

“. . . By the end of the show, you’ll be holding your partner tight, not just anxiously awaiting the bedroom, but also feeling comfortable about what happens in said bedroom . . . ”

The cast includes Dustin Hamilton (Dick), Buddy Reeder (The Swami), and Kendel Lester (Gina). The show is directed by Buddy Reeder.

Dates and Location:
Saturdays at 10:30pm
Davenport’s Piano Bar and Cabaret
1383 N. Milwaukee Avenue, Chicago

To reserve your tickets, call Davenport’s at 773-278-1830

Show ends March 28, 2009.

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