Archive for Gender

[Podcast] Foxy Brown’s Worst PR Strategy, Trannies and STDs

Genia and Shae discuss:  why some homosexuals married opposite gender spouses.  Did we get married just to fit in?  Did we get married to stay in the closet?

Shae catches our listeners up on American Idol and The Voice.

(Skip to minute 27:18)  Genia and Shae gossip about Jay Z and Foxy Brown:  She claims he gave her a sexually transmitted disease.  AND she claimes he has a thing for “trannies” – her word, not ours.

Listen to Foxy Brown’s Worst PR Strategy, Trannies and STDs


[Podcast] Do Straight People With Gay Spouses Need Support?

In She Said, She Said #133, Genia and Andrea discuss the Straight Spouse Network – a support network for straight people who were once married to people who came out as homosexuals.    Genia and Andrea debate the necessity of such a group.

Listen to Do Straight People With Gay Spouses Need Support?

Part 1: Monica Roberts Addresses Michfest’s Trans Policy

DADT Affects Women, Too. Who Would’ve Thunk It?

This press release bugs me just a bit because the “news” here is being presented as if this extremely important fact about DADT just came to light.  Most of us who haven’t been wowed by rockstar DADT activist Dan Choi already knew that women and racial minorities are the groups most affected by DADT.   The fact that Choi and other prominent DADT activists have chosen to ignore this fact really grates my nerves.

For some time now, prominent DADT activists have pushed the “highly educated and skilled gay men with really important military jobs are being kicked out of the military” rhetoric. In the meantime, women and racial minorities who were affected by DADT (especially those who don’t have seemingly “important” roles in the military) have been ignored. We’ve seen a very “entitled and privileged gay male” mentality at play with DADT activists. I use the words “entitled” and “privileged” because any servicemember who props himself up to be a bigger loss to the nation’s armed services than someone else is definitely functioning using a privileged and entitled mentality.

With that said, even though the following press release prompted a really nasty knee jerk response, I think it’s worth posting:

LOS ANGELES — The Williams Institute for Sexual Orientation Law and Public Policy at the UCLA School of Law issued results of a new study showing that the proportion of women and racial/ethnic minorities among those discharged under the US military’s “Don’t Ask/Don’t Tell” policy has increased over time.  In the late 1990s approximately a quarter of discharges were women and similar proportions were racial/ethnic minorities.  In recent years, those proportions have increased to more than a third of the DADT discharges.

Williams Distinguished Scholar Dr. Gary Gates notes that, “These data document a marked shift in how Don’t Ask/Don’t Tell has been enforced among various demographic groups.  It is clear that women and racial/ethnic minorities now bear a larger portion of the burden imposed by the policy than they did when the policy was first implemented in 1993.”

The study analyses the demographic characteristics of the more than 13,500 men and women who have been discharged under Don’t Ask/Don’t Tell and compares those characteristics to those of the US military as a whole and to characteristics of lesbians, gay men, and bisexuals (LGB) serving in the military.

The percentage of women in the military has remained steady at about 14-15% from 1997 through 2008 while the percentage of women discharged under Don’t Ask/Don’t Tell has increased from 22% in 1997 to 39% in 2009.  Other Williams Institute analyses suggest that the percentage of women among LGB servicemembers has increased from 32% in 2000 to 41% in 2008.

Racial and ethnic minorities comprise about a third of the US military and comprise a similar proportion of the Don’t Ask/Don’t Tell discharges in 2009.  Data from US Census Bureau data on individuals in same-sex couples who say they are either on active duty or in the guard or reserve suggest that about a quarter are non-white.  This was true in both 2000 and in 2008.

This study follows a series of Williams Institute reports documenting the impact of the Don’t Ask/Don’t Tell policy.  Williams Institute research has shown that:   Nearly 71,000 lesbians, gay men, and bisexuals  are currently serving either on active duty or among guard and reserve forces in the US military.  Since its inception, Don’t Ask/Don’t Tell has cost the US taxpayers as much as half a billion dollars.   If the “Don’t Ask Don’t Tell” policy had not been instituted, an estimated 4,000 lesbian, gay, and bisexual personnel would have been retained  in the US military each year since 1994.

CNN Responds to Petition to ‘Tune Out’ their Gay in America Series

I received an email from Dallas LGBTQ equality activist C.D. Kirven pointing me to an article on that calls for a ‘tune out’ of CNN’s Gay in America series. After tweeting about the blog post, I posted it on a private Google group full of LGBT bloggers and head honchos of LGBT organizations. Within 5 minutes, I received a lead that pointed me to a contact person in CNN’s PR department – and within 10 minutes, I’d sent an email to CNN and received the following response:

Hi Genia,

The producers for ‘In America,’ are devoted to capturing diverse voices and believe we have done so with our Gay in America initiative.

Please know that there have been many other stories about the LGBT community that have aired on CNN this week as part of our “Gay in America” initiative, in addition to the Gary and Tony Have a Baby documentary. Some of the stories included were how a black Baptist church in DC is dealing with gay unions, a black service member discussing a repeal of “don’t ask, don’t tell,” a 2-part series on gay teens from Mississippi and two black men who adopted a child.

In addition, exclusive to is a story called the “Brady Bunch” about two black gay fathers who’ve joined their families and our ‘Rare Views’ where couples of a variety of racial backgrounds get to tell their stories.

All of these stories can be found on on our “Gay in America” page:

I hope this is helpful information to you.

Christine Pietz

Even though the series is called ‘Gay in America,” should we expect to see more trans inclusion? Thoughts?


Here’s C.D.’s response to CNN’s response:


Thank you for responding indirectly because I have not received a return email from your producers in return of my emails I’ve been sending for weeks. You have left out a huge part of our community that include Transgender, Transsexuals, Bisexuals and LGBT rights activists like myself whose protests and rallies are not reported on similar to the “Tea Party’s” events.

GET EQUAL NOW instead of GLAAD appears to be responsible for diverse positive LGBT images so your run down of your “planned” series has still fail short of capturing the faces of our community. Since I’m an activist, I must stand up for those who feel invisible and so I will continue to collect my 1600 signatures and hope those who also want all voices heard will stand with me.

This week is the 41st anniversary of the Stonewall riots where a transgender Puertorican woman threw the first shoe that started our national LGBT fight for independence. To ignore the struggle and the people fighting in it is not my Gay in America. We can’t leave off the B and T!

C.D. Kirven

Update: The correct web site address for Get Equal NOW is