Comments on: Heading Home After 13 Years to Face My Demons

By: BamaPolyBiGuy1

BamaPolyBiGuy1 — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 18:52:53 +0000

Hope it turned out okay. I'm on the outs with my parents as well. A day or so before I read your post, I read the book Chosen by P.C. and Kristen Cast that sums up my feelings about them: "If you can find some sense in that head of yours and want to see us because you love us as we are, then give me a call. If not, I don't want to hear from you again."

By: Véronique

Véronique — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 04:08:49 +0000

As someone whose mother won't see me — neither will my siblings really, although they don't say so explicitly — I know the pain of being apart even if the situation wasn't always the best. I hope you have a wonderful trip, for you and your partner and your kids.

By: Matt

Matt — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 02:40:48 +0000

We don’t get to choose our families, but we can decide how to interact with them, if at all. To accept your mother — with her anger and her many failings — is about all you can do.

All the best. Happy Thanksgiving!

By: Tricia

Tricia — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 02:36:36 +0000

Oh…I wish you the best of luck. I completely understand what kinds of emotions you are going through. I have barely spoken to my mother in more years than I care to count. Just the thought of it stresses me still, although it is much less than it used to be. I'll be thinking of you, and I hope you and your family are able to truly enjoy each other.

By: @QueerjohnPA

@QueerjohnPA — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 01:52:55 +0000

All the best. Happy Thanksgiving.

By: christine

christine — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 01:07:58 +0000

Being around family that we've drifted away from, for whatever the reason, is such an emotional experience. It is for me. I'm so aware of everything going on around me, because my senses are heightened. I thank you for sharing and look forward to hearing the details of your trip.
I wish you an abundance of peace this Thanksgiving and a safe journey, both physically and emotionally.