What I Posted on Twitter Yesterday:
- 10:04 What’s the Worst Pickup Line You’ve Ever Heard or Used? bit.ly/7Rwrco #
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Archive for November 2009
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What I Posted on Twitter Yesterday:
- 07:03 Happy Thanksgiving! bit.ly/6vlFqD #
- 10:03 If You Were Dating a Woman Who Began Transitioning to Male, Would You Remain in the Relationship? bit.ly/650zLU #
- 12:01 Use your Turkey Day break to catch up on missed ‘She Said, She Said’ podcasts: bit.ly/4XD0Ol #
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What I Posted on Twitter Yesterday:
- 12:03 Have You Ever Used Facebook to Spy on Your Partner? bit.ly/5RJM5k #
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What I Posted on Twitter Yesterday:
- 11:18 Hey @JenKFoster, you’re on my ‘while-I-work’ playlist with @BillieMyers, @GoddesandShe and @SarahMcLachlan #
- 11:24 @BillieMyers I’m pretty good. Trying to get a few things accomplished before I close up for the holiday weekend. You have holiday plans? #
- 14:39 I’ve been following this lesbian mom custody case for years. Interesting development: bit.ly/08axkOb #
- 14:50 Just in case you’re wondering what you can buy me for Christmas, I’m addicted to these: bit.ly/7ynHj1 #fb #
- 14:53 @PookieB I didn’t expect that result either. The bio-Mom must’ve really tested that judge’s nerves for that to happen. #
- 14:53 @Oliviaand24 I prefer food over thongs. Ha! #
- 14:57 Let this case (bit.ly/08axkOb) be a lesson to all gay couples. Once you get marriage rights, you get divorce headaches as well. #
- 15:01 @Jay00789 Yep. The case was finally settled a few days ago. #
- 19:37 Heading Home After 13 Years to Face My Demons – bit.ly/5P0M0j #
- 19:44 @dereknicoletto I’m hoping for a great new beginning. You have plans for Turkey Day? #
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Heading Home After 13 Years to Face My Demons
I was born and raised in Waynesboro, a small town in Georgia.
Population: 5,874. Race demographics: Black (62.5%), White Non-Hispanic (35.6%), Hispanic (1.2%), Two or more races (1.0%).
I never had time to hate that small town because I spent most of my time reading and daydreaming about graduation day: the day I’d leave Waynesboro and never look back.
My mother was extremely physically abusive. She beat me with telephone extension cords, orange electrical cords, her fists and anything else she knew would cause harm. She denies this ever happened and claims I’ve made it all up in my head. I don’t know if that’s her way of coping with the guilt, but what I do know is that it took years for me to “get over it” – whatever it was . . . whatever she claims it wasn’t.
For several years after high school graduation, I tried returning home for special occasions. Everytime I returned, my mother tried to hurt me. Since she couldn’t beat me anymore, she tried hurting me with insults - nasty words she’d throw at me in front of my then-husband and kids. In April 1996, I decided I didn’t need her and I didn’t need home. I haven’t been home since then.
In 2002, I tried reconciling with my mother. I flew her to Wisconsin. The plan was for her to spend 2 weeks with me and her grandchildren. The visit lasted 3 days. I put her on a plane and sent her home, asking that she not contact me again until she learned how to respect the adult person I’ve become. We’ve spoken very little since that day. I don’t answer my phone when the caller ID shows a Georgia area code. I always make the call go to voice mail.
Three months ago I decided it was time to go home again. My grandmother suffered 3 strokes in the past 2 years and I’d like to see her before she dies. My youngest sister got married and has two small children I’ve never seen. My other sister has two girls who are the same age as my children; our kids should get to know each other. The pain I felt for years growing up in my mother’s home has passed. It’s time to move on.
I’ve accepted that my mother is who she is and, most likely, she’ll never change. It’s wrong to avoid my entire family because my mother has a whole lot of hate in her heart for me. It’s wrong to keep my children away from their entire family because my mother and I are not friends.
Andrea, my kids and I are heading to Georgia tomorrow morning. We’re all very excited. The boys are excited they’ll finally get to meet “the Black side” of their family. They only know their father’s side of the family. I never realized how important it was to them to make that connection until they lit up with excitement when I told them we were going home for Thanksgiving. I plan to blog each day’s experience so I have something to look back on when I need a reminder that while family dynamics may be complicated, it’s extremely important (and comforting) to remain connected.
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What I Posted on Twitter Yesterday:
- 18:12 I’m trying to watch the new Shakira video on YouTube. Tech issues. Ugh! It’s interrupting my drooling. #
- 18:16 @kuterus There’s something really hot about a group of fine Black women slappin’ each other on the ass. Love her video! #
- 18:26 I should have looked for a temporary air card days ago. I need one for my road trip to GA. We’re heading there for Turkey Day. #
- 18:27 @willowsbrain The song is ‘Give It Up To Me feat. Lil Wayne’. I can do without all the images of Lil Wayne in the video. #
- 18:33 @ArcticJadis Thank you. Do you have plans for Turkey Day? #
- 18:34 Can You Take Your Same-Sex Partner Home for the Holidays? bit.ly/4GGxiT #
- 19:20 @naidulaw Andrea and I just started fighting that battle. My family’s cool about it. Her family isn’t. #
- 19:25 Facebook is workin’ my nerves tonight. #
- 19:38 I got my hair did (ha!) so I can model the tshirt @Flirtatious_T sent me. This one: bit.ly/wIXqC #
- 19:59 @shalamajackson I won’t be able to play with anyone who follows me. My girlfriend won’t allow that. But I like the tshirt! Ha! #
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What I Posted on Twitter Yesterday:
- 13:44 The eTaser: a device that sends an electrical charge through your body when you’re on FB or Twitter when you SHOULD be working. #
- 13:45 @Otalia69 I’m not CNN, so no plans for that interview yet. Ha! I’ve asked but the answer has been "when we have time." #
- 16:16 Booty call business cards: bit.ly/Q9q3 #
- 17:03 Live now: Are Gay Parents Better Than Straight Ones? Dr. Goldberg Responds. bit.ly/7iIlxT #
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Are Gay Parents Better Than Straights Ones?
Dr. Abbie Goldberg joins SistersTalk Radio to discuss the media’s reaction to her book Lesbian and Gay Parents and Their Children: Research on the Family Life Cycle.
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What I Posted on Twitter Yesterday:
- 10:07 When Did You Know You Were a Lesbian? bit.ly/4tkFrF #
- 16:33 Gay Spouses Due Benefits in the State, Court Finds – bit.ly/2PKvme #
- 16:34 ‘Entourage’ creator to crack down on racial and gay slurs – bit.ly/8PJ4NJ #
- 16:35 Lipton shows support for new same-sex marriage proposal – bit.ly/5Zzz6O #
- 18:00 Live now: Jen Foster discusses theme song for Venice the Series. bit.ly/5BKxxz #
- 18:34 Venice fans created some interesting tech issues tonight, but we finally talked to @JenKFoster about her song Venice Beach. #
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What I Posted on Twitter Yesterday:
- 10:04 Are You Out at Work? bit.ly/4yoHrL #
- 18:23 Just heard that Oprah was steppin’ away from the talk show business. It’s not like she needs the money, right? #
- 18:27 @ZenobiaDTC Hmm . . . So Oprah will have her own network? Will it include lots of touchy-feely Lifetime-like content? #
- 18:33 Tweeters are flippin’ out because I didn’t know Oprah was starting her own network. Umm, should I know (or care) just because I’m Black? #
- 18:34 @ZenobiaDTC Ha! Lifetime isn’t running L Word reruns either? Or are they? #
- 18:36 @1stdjs True, but I haven’t watched an episode of Oprah since 2000. Maybe even before then. Her content doesn’t appeal to me. #
- 18:37 @ZenobiaDTC I don’t watch ANY talk shows – not even Ellen, and she’s a lesbian. So it has nothing to do with her sexual orientation. #
- 18:40 @AScorpioPassion Oprah never gave me a car either, so don’t feel bad. It’s nothing personal.
# - 18:45 Tweeter @4NorthCarolina wants to know if Oprah’s finale will include free McDonald’s meals for the whole world. Ha! #
- 18:50 Break time over. There are 8 social media projects that need my attention. #
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