Oct

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Bi Girls Need to Practice Extra, Extra Safe Sex

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I just read No, Not All Bi Women Love Threesomes: Silly Myths About Women and Bisexuality. I’m guessing the writer isn’t bisexual, and if she is, she’s not as informed about bisexuality as she thinks she is. I’ve highlighted the parts that raised an eyebrow in bold – and added my own sidebar comments in italics:

As a bisexual in the dating world, you’ll need to be extra careful to practice safer sex. [hunny, everyone needs to be extra careful and practice safer sex]. Consider keeping a sex kit in your bag — there’s nothing hotter than a lady who knows how to take care of herself and her partner, and you’ll score points if you’re the thoughtful one who brings along a tasty vanilla-flavored dental dam. A pair of latex rubber gloves (available at any grocery store) will provide protection for vaginal or anal play — pair them with lube to make sure things go smoothly. Water-based lubes like Liquid Silk will provide natural-feeling wetness without damaging the latex — very important, especially for anal play. Condoms, of course, should also be in your kit: the Durex Pleasure Pack includes a variety of sensations to try. Finally, consider your container. Latex can be damaged by friction, so dropping a dental dam into your purse [lots of bisexual females don't even carry a purse. Ever seen a butch bisexual? I have!] or tucking a condom into your pocket can do more harm than good. A Just In Case hard-sided container will keep your latex pristine (and discreet — you don’t want a dental dam falling out of your purse [there's that purse again!] while you’re reaching for your wallet!). Finally, if you’re using a dildo, vibrator or other toys, be careful to clean them thoroughly, since bodily fluids can carry all sorts of unpleasant viruses. It’s always safest to keep your toys separate — one dildo per person, please.

After reading this article, I got the feeling the writer assumes all bisexual women are traditionally feminine women who carry purses. And that, my dear readers, isn’t always true.

Another thing naggin’ me: I’m wondering why the writer has emphasized that bisexuals need to be extra careful and practice safer sex. Is that based on the assumption that bi women are promiscuous whores who run around bangin’ anybody and everybody? Maybe I’m reading too much into this article, but I’m guessing I’m not the only one who noticed these little details.

Upon further reflection, it appears the article is more of a marketing piece for various bi-related web sites – and less of a sincere attempt to tackle stereotypes about bisexuals.

Thoughts?

Oct

1

Daily Tweet Digest

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What I Posted on Twitter Yesterday:

  • 09:49 Catholic Church Delivers Astonishing Pedophilia Rationalization in Geneva – tr.im/AdW8 #
  • 10:27 @lindsmartin I don’t want a Google Wave invite, but I could sure use a few more Google Voice numbers. #
  • 16:16 Mattison Grey will discuss homophobia in sports on tonight’s SistersTalk Radio: tr.im/Ag7z #
  • 16:40 On Eve of March, Faith Drives Activism for Gay Rights Supporters – tr.im/AgfB #
  • 16:41 NY Marriage Equality Vote Now Looks Likely for ’09 – tr.im/Agge #
  • 16:42 After Gay Kiss, Mormon Church Puts Visitors On Notice – tr.im/Aggz #
  • 16:43 ‘Kill Gays’ Artist Back On Tour In Ohio, California – tr.im/Agh2 #
  • 16:45 Mad Men Star Batt Planning Gay Marriage – tr.im/Aghi #
  • 16:58 Rollin’ my eyes at Facebook. I think FB needs a spankin’ – It’s actin’ up – again. #
  • 17:03 RT – LMAO! @afrolicious Getting off twitter because I’m drinking coffee and we all know what happened last time. #

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