White Gay Male Believes Transgender People Hinder LGBTQ Equality

I’ve already tackled what I consider white gay male priviledge, but I think Monica over at TransGriot has a viewpoint worth mentioning. Monica points to a Feb. 26 blog post at A.E.Brain that has her spittin’ nails.

A.E.Brain calls out a gay white male who will remind you of that racist and sexist straight white dude who makes you roll your eyes everytime he opens his mouth:

At the risk of sounding controversial, I visit Queerty because I am a gay white male. I have no interest in ‘women issues’. While I’m not opposed to sporadic and infrequent [bold emphasis is mine] attention to lesbians, I do not want this blog devoting any more time to their cause….Simply because I am gay does not mean I care about lesbians, bisexuals or transgender persons.

Holy shit! Imagine that. A white guy who doesn’t give a shit about anything unless it directly relates to him. Who woulda thunk it, right?

I know lots of gay white males who feel the same way about lesbian and/or women’s issues, but they haven’t been brave enough to voice that opinion to the masses. For them, life is about dick: seein’ dick, touchin’ dick, suckin’ dick, doin’ dick and promotin’ dick. That’s it. There’s no room in their tiny brains for anything else.

I don’t even know why some people try and group us together as one cause – GLBT – because we are not. I can see some purpose to grouping G + L and even Bs together, but not Ts. I am quite comfortable being male, and I hate being associated with crossdressers. I find Ts offensive and do not want to extend any rights to them [bold emphasis is mine]. Transgender persons should fight their own battles, because at the moment they’re hindering the rights of gays, lesbians and bisexuals everywhere.

What.the.fuck? This guy has some serious self-hatin’ going on. He kinda reminds me of Black people who are ashamed of being Black and they hate anything that’s commonly associated with Black culture. What a shame that this gay white male hates transgender people so much that he wants to exclude them from any LGBTQ equality movement. Does he really believe transgender people are the reason homosexuals don’t have equal rights?

I’ll tell ya what’s really hindering full equality for the LGBTQ community: anti-gay homophobic lawmakers and dumbass homosexuals who spend too much time in “it’s all about me” mode.

Thank gawd every gay white male in the world isn’t a completely self-centered moron, or the fight for LGBTQ equality would be screwed.


  1. Political Profession says:

    I'm usually right there with you, but I don't think I see eye to eye with you here. Yes, I think transgendered people should have all the same rights and privileges as everyone else, but I'm not sure that is the responsibility of the gay rights movement, or every gay rights activist.

    Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity are not the same thing. They are completely separate issues, and sometimes it makes sense to treat them as such. For instance, last year, when Congress was debating the Employee Non-Discrimination Act (ENDA), an amendment was made that removed Gender Identity from the bill.

    Most of the major gay rights organizations quit supporting the bill at that point, and I think that was a mistake. Yes, transgendered people should have equal rights. However, support of rights for gay and lesbian men and women shouldn't be made contingent upon whether transgendered people are also included.

    I personally was saddened by the sudden collapse of support for the bill once it was no longer Transgender inclusive. I think a step in the right direction is a step in the right direction, even if it isn't a step all the way across the finish line.

    Also, just because I have much more commitment to the issue that impacts me most directly, and that is equality for people of various sexual orientations, does not mean that I have "hatred" towards people with differing gender identities, and it certainly doesn't mean I'm self loathing. At the very worst it means I'm self interested, but I would postulate that this makes me no different from almost everyone else.

    For what it's worth.

  2. Julianna says:

    Is there enough self-loathing in there for him? OMG. I’m embarrassed by my gay white brother. Do I have to call him that? I mean my real red-neck bio straight brother gets that all people should be given equality, don’t matter what you identify as or who you screw.

    When people go about cherry picking who gets what there’s always going to be problems because someone is always going to be left out of the equation.

  3. There is no shortage of arrogance, conceit and cruelty in the world of race privilege.

    Thanks for pointing this out.


  4. My but that white male privilege does over ride everything else doesn’t it? I think jerks like this are a major hindrance to my and my tribes legal equality. Except for his sexual orientation he is a perfect Republican.

  5. While I think it is important to understand that we are an incredibly diverse group of people and that each of us has endured and overcome struggles that others may only be able to empathize with at best, the gentleman (I use that term loosely), who has no interest in women’s issues and later claims that transgender persons should simply fight their own battle has put absolutely no thought in what it is that brings community together… or what rips community apart.

    History proves it is in our best interest to build a network of support. Building community in which we can freely and safely live will not only lead to our equal status within the United States but also guarantee our place as citizens of the world. Because of the lack of interest many have in coming to the aid of those minorities that are unable to speak up for themselves, German generations to come will continue to bear the mark of Cain for the millions who perished at the hands of the Third Reich; homosexuals among them.

    To claim the challenges that women or transgender persons face is not the concern of the white homosexual population, is arrogant, ignorant, irresponsible and especially dangerous. We do have a responsibility to our neighbor. To claim that we do not, promotes the sort ideological ignorance that can lead to what has been repeated through history many times.

    I am a white gay male and I know what it is to be hated. I belong to the LGBTQ community. And for the first time in my life, I am proud to have a place where I am accepted. I have found my voice and I will use it to speak out against hatred. I will not sit idly by as a people continue to experience the injustices that are all too common amongst the LGBTQ community. Your battle is my battle. If the time should ever come when I must speak up for even the life of the fool who has authored such ridiculous commentary…hope that I am here for him. Hope that I’ve not already been taken away.

    Acknowledging the differences within community is one thing, acknowledging the similarities with regard to what we must overcome builds solidarity and ensures a path to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.

    You are correct Genia, “this guy has some serious self-hatin’ going on.”

  6. jaysays says:

    This is just sad. It’s sad that civil equality only matters to this person when it is his civil equality at stake. We should always stand up for those being deprived of life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness and this extends far beyond race and gender identity. I suppose he has no regard for non-wheelchair accessible cities because he isn’t in a wheelchair, no regard for the genocides in Darfur because he isn’t in Darfur, ect… ect… There is a quote by Niemöller which may be over used but remains unfortunately applicable:

    In Germany, they came first for the Communists, And I didn’t speak up because I wasn’t a Communist;

    And then they came for the trade unionists, And I didn’t speak up because I wasn’t a trade unionist;

    And then they came for the Jews, And I didn’t speak up because I wasn’t a Jew;

    And then . . . they came for me . . . And by that time there was no one left to speak up.

  7. Renee says:

    Monica’s post originated with a post I wrote critiquing Queerty of appropriating images from the Jim Crow era to promote gay marriage. When called out the author denied privileged and countered with “I don’t have male privilege because I am a fag”.

    What I continually see is the white male run GLBT movement alienating its potential allies because they refuse to take an intersectional approach and they absolutely refuse to admit that though they are marginalized because of sexuality that they still exist with privilege. I am beyond frustrated with this. Were it not for my deep commitment to justice I would have walked away as an ally long ago.

  8. Don’t give up Renee! I’ve been talking with Jay quite a bit about this. He pointed out that at least with being a white male homosexual, although neither of us hide the homosexual part very well, the majority may at least question before casting judgment. The difference with African American LGBT persons is that you are automatically judged. Whether it is bad, good or indifferent, you are judged by the majority first for simply being African American. Once that judgment passes, you must then overcome the fact that you are homosexual or transgender.

    Maybe I’m finally getting a little bit of this. When I first began reading about the race issues within the LGBT community, all I could think about was how could anyone deny what I’ve had to overcome. But that’s not what this is about at all. It’s about recognizing the difficulties we all face collectively and individually.

    Thank you for continuing to speak up on these issues Don’t give up on this white gay man.

  9. Joanna says:

    Dear Sir: to quot you "I think a step in the right direction is a step in the right direction, even if it isn't a step all the way across the finish line." That is the problem with many laws that purport to assist the Transgender community (I am MTF BTW). They never seem to get where they need to be for us to have the support and protection that is needed to protect us from things like a murder rate that is 11 or more times the national average.

    If, 30 years ago, the laws which now protect the Gay, Lesbian and Bi community were as half hearted as the ones which now purport to protect us you would still be on the streets fighting. By the way before any one points out New Mexico's seemingly excellent law NMSA 28-1-9(F) in Exceptions reads " apply to public restrooms, public showers, public dressing facilities or sleeping quarters in public institutions, where the preference or limitation is based on sex; " Which means, yes we cant be discriminated against in employment or housing but no matter how we present (I live and work as a woman) we have to use the bathroom appropriate to our natal sex. This is not only stupid but inherently unsafe.